Sometimes I will meet a new client, and he only has to give me a quick hug or touch my arm, and I think, "Wow--IT may happen tonight!!!"
By "IT," of course I mean that I sense such a powerful chemistry that I am almost certain I will be able to orgasm with this man.
I have often thought to myself--and even mentioned to several clients--that I wish I could "bottle" that intangible, ineffable, almost indescribable quality we call "chemistry" between two people, because I think I would become a billionairess if I did!
Being the New Age Escort, of course I have a metaphysical explanation for this phenomenon: The energy fields, or "auras," of the two individuals who enjoy the great chemistry between them must have some kind of "magnetic resonance." One can also look to astrology for compatibilities between the signs, planets, and elements in the two charts. One could also speculate on a powerful "karmic link" between these chemically-attuned folks.
I would say that I am affectionate, sensual, and passionate, in that order (and that IS the usual order of my emotion and enthusiasm as I build to orgasm). But if the guy and I clearly have that "great chemistry" from the first moment, then often an urgency builds within me from the very beginning, and I start to anticipate--and even rush to--my own climax.
If there is one thing a woman cannot fake--or hide--it is copious vaginal lubrication!!! It definitely varies a bit with the night and my mood, but there are several clients whom I have seen multiple times wherein "the little spring" between my legs starts bubbling away right from the get-go, and I always end up having an orgasm with these gentlemen. These clients/lovers get the designation of "Yum-mee!!!," which is my highest rating.
"Chemistry"--that wonderful, erotic, passionate, (and, yes, rare) quality of physical (and sometimes even emotional) attraction and connection between myself and a man is certainly desirable in a client in this line of work, and is almost always a surprise. I would say it occurs maybe 10% of the time, if even that often. It has nothing to do with the man's age, physical attractiveness, ethnicity, or even his personality, but certainly I will feel it (and enjoy it!) much more with a guy who is open to me and comfortable with his sexuality.
I had this kind of voracious attraction (and certainly there was infatuation, as well) with my first real boyfriend/lover in high school. I always thought that it was necessary for me to be very deeply emotionally involved to feel this kind of intensely passionate desire for a sex partner, but I have found that this is not the case for me, at least not anymore. How gratifying to discover that I can allow myself to surrender completely to my powerful libido and enjoy this kind of intense encounter with a complete stranger, whom I will very likely never see again--?? And most of my clients seem to really appreciate the fact that I am being truly authentic--as well as "getting off"--with them!
I have written in a previous entry about how this work leads to a sort of "instant intimacy," in that it affords some sense of freedom that a normal dating experience (or even a one-night stand) does not. It is very often the case that I will see a particular client only once. There is certainly no pressure on my part to continue after that initial encounter, and I think a lot of men can relax more easily with me than with a woman who may "want to get more involved." I DO NOT want to get more involved, in general, although a number of clients have become real friends and have stayed in touch with me over the years. If the client is not a "Nervous Newbie" (or paranoid for some other reason), the immediacy and the highly limited nature of the liaison may allow him to let down his guard and revel in his own sexuality--perhaps for the first time in his life.
And that "spark" of great chemistry between myself and a client can certainly aid in this process. That's why I once referred to this work as "Erotic Go-Fish": I never know just what I'm going to find on the other side of the door when the client opens it to welcome me in, but sometimes it's really good (and H-O-T!!!) ;)
